Wednesday 16 November 2011

20 years ago today

Mr and Mrs

I married my best friend.  What adventures we have had together over the last twenty years. Wow two decades and counting.  We were married on a beautiful Saturday afternoon at The Gereformeerde Kerk in Hoedspruit South Africa.

The date 16 November 1991 and since then our journey has taken turns I could never have dreamed of.

Here are some highlights:

Engaged in Hoedspruit
Married at Gereformeerde Kerk Hoedspruit
Moved to Trackers

Started working for African Realty Trust
Moved onto Richmond Game Farm
Positive pregnancy test November
Went to Zimbabwe for a wedding 
(This couple caught the garter and brides bouquet at our wedding the year before)

Welcomed our first born son Mr T on my 21st birthday.
21st birthday for me.
Mr T had his first eye operation 

Went to Zimbabwe for a holiday.
Mr T had his second eye operation.
Built an outward bound school center on the farm
Paul ran school camps and I did the catering for up to 65 people 3 meals a day for 5 days.
My parents and youngest two siblings immigrated to New Zealand
Second positive pregnancy test on 27 December

Welcomed our second born a daughter Miss J into our home

Went to New Zealand for a holiday to my parents

Mr T had his third eye surgery.
Moved to Christchurch New Zealand
March Applied for permanent residency.
July received permanent residency in New Zealand.
Paul worked in three different part time jobs
December Paul employed full time as Park Manager at Willowbank Wildlife Reserve

Moved into our first rental property
Purchased my first Sonlight Core
Started Home Schooling Mr T and Miss J

Moved to our second rental property
Paul's parents came over for a visit.
Moved into our third rental.
Second Core from Sonlight

Celebrated the New Millennium with Paul's parents visiting.
Toured the whole of the south island of New Zealand on a shoe string with a van and a tent.
Discovered The Well Trained Mind
Started reading and using The Story of the World

12 September became New Zealand citizens.

Were blessed with 4 tickets for a trip to South Africa for a surprise trip to Paul's parents 40th wedding anniversary.

Moved to Willowbank Wildlife Reserve
Paul fell onto roof and hurt his back which resulted in spinal surgery and rehab
Achieved my Cert III in computer studies.

Joined Advanced Training Institute and did Wisdom Books for Home School
Third positive pregnancy test

Went on holiday to Anglesea in Victoria Australia with family
June welcomed our second son Sir N into our home

Migrated to Australia
Purchased our first home

Paul went as a wildlife guide to South Africa with a tour group with his uncle.
Children and I visited New Zealand
Paul's parents visit from South Africa
Paul started working at Werribee Open Range Zoo

Went to Tasmania for a holiday
Fourth positive pregnancy test
Paul on fishing trip to Tasmania
Lost this baby to miscarriage

Mr T went to Tasmania and did two weeks work experience
Went to New Zealand for our 18th wedding Anniversary

Paul's parents visited from South Africa for three months.  (can't wait for the next visit)
Mr T started his first job
Mr T fell and hurt his back
Mr T had back surgery

Mr T recovers from back surgery
Started Every Bed of Roses
Start Home Schooling Sir N
Mr T starts his second job
Miss J starts her first job
Miss J being awarded her Cert III in retail.
Miss J completed her Cert III in Childrens Services
Celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary

God Willing
2012 and beyond
Family reunion in South Africa in April / May / June
Trip to Queensland to see the solar eclipse in November
Apply for permanent residency in Australia (Please pray for us)
More of His blessings .....

It has been an eventful 20 years and I look forward to our next 20 and hope that it is a time of blessing and fantastic adventures.

What have I learned ?
I have learned so many things but the first one that comes to mind is from a song by Don Francisco : "Love is not a feeling it's an act of your will"  When I read 1 Corinthians 13 it does not speak about feelings it speaks about actions but more importantly it's about choosing to do the right thing regardless of how I feel.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Amplified Bible (AMP)

4Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.

    5It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].

    6It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.

    7Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening].

    8Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end]

Look what my friend blessed me with in honour of our first 20 years together:

A solitaire diamond ring

May your day be as blessed as mine is today


I would like to thank Jo Princess Warrior for the idea of a timeline of what we 've been up to as I saw this on her post 10 years of Marriage and thought wow what a neat idea I would like to do that..

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  1. Beautiful post Chareen. :) And i love the ring. Hope you have the best day ever.


  2. Happy 20th Anniversary... such a gorgeous ring! I really love the timeline too. Praise God for the past 20 years for you both and all that He has blessed you with and taught you over these years.

  3. Congratulations on 20 years of marriage! I loved reading your timeline and seeing your journey unfold. May the next 20 years be even better than the first. Many blessings xo

  4. I have walked most of this journey with you and Paul and when I read this blog the memories came flooding back. God sure has blessed us as a family and I give thanks every day for it.
    Now as you walk into the next year may God's word be a lamp to both of your paths and a light to you and Paul's feet Giving Him Glory and Honour and praise. Amen!


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